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Y'all know that love isn't just words.

Love isn't always grand. Love, the kind that lasts a lifetime, comes with arguments, sacrifice, patience, STFUing when you still got a whole litany to sing.

Long-term love is an unpaid, sweaty, demanding, annoying, fart-suppressing, no-weekend, no-vacation WORK.

So here's a crazy idea: How about you get a head start, practice giving love by taking care of yourself first?

How can you love another if you don't know how to love yourself first?

How can you be sure you can take care of someone else every day, if you aren't committed to taking care of yourself every damnfucking day?

Taking care of yourself first is not an act of selfishness. It's how being a responsible grownup looks like on a non-heroic, day-to-day practice.⠀

And if you get really good at taking care of yourself, you might attract like-minded peers: People who understand the costs of love. People who seek equals, not clingy partners. Who would strive to earn and maintain your respect, honoring your time and sacrifices. Instead of paying you off with words, sulkiness or gifts. And who can share the burden of love with you.⠀

Take care of your mind, body and spirit. Have a nice week. Easy on the spirits. I wish you a glad Valentine's Day.

(PS. The love you earn may come in the form of a job, a parent, a niece, a friend, a community. It may come when you least expect it. But will always come in the form and time you most need it.)

❤ . 🌺
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1.     Readers will read. Regardless to format or income or legality.  
2.     Something to remember: The Prophet was illiterate.
3.     The first verse the Prophet received was: “Read.”
4.     You don’t have to finish every book you’ve started. Time is valuable, books are endless. Even if you’ve spent thirteen hours trudging through the Infinite Jest. When it’s time to quit, quit.
5.     Guilt is a useless emotion. There is only one course of action to deal with it: Learn. Move on.
6.     Sometimes it’s alright to trust the Bestseller lists.
7.     Not a lot of books on the bestsellers lists have the power to educate, entertain or express eloquently. That said,
8.     Even some bad books have something to teach. Even if the only lesson they teach is “How to write a bad book.”
9.     There is no such thing as wasted time reading great literary fiction. The most obvious effects from reading well-written fiction is the changes in the quality of your thoughts. The second best thing is the quality of your conversations. Hence, the improved quality of friends you keep. (Three cheers to the Sekuts.)
10.  Minds evolve with books. The more books you read, the more you know. Eventually…
11.  The more you know, the richer a heart you grow. A rich heart is visibly less bored, never lonely even in solitude. (This is why readers make highly-adjusting world travelers.)
12.  Some books have the power to reassess the way you look at the world. You're generally fucked when this happens. Fucked and very lucky to bask in that renewed sense of wonder.
13.  If you only have space for one self-help book for the rest of your life, read something written by a formerly Jewish Atheist, whose hypotheses on happiness are firmly based on religious script and social sciences. If you have room for THREE self-help books, read something by a Nobel Prize winner and this thing by a Stanford University lecturer. All three books honor the biology of human behavior.
14.  There is no point in overdoing the book recommendations. You need to find your own groove in the world.
15.  Intelligence is overrated. More powerful than IQ is the compassion to say NO to a lot of things. Saying NO takes muscle. Muscle takes practice. You get where I'm going?
16.  Reading is a skill; it can be learned. You can train to read faster, or deeper. You can train to read from audiobooks, ebooks and on the go. You can learn to forgo paper books and social media because you know your limits and priorities. You can might never get used to the sacrifices you make in order to keep doing the things you love. But you do anyway. Growing up is a skill.
17.  It’s not about quantity of books. It’s always about quality and your relationship with the books you read. It’s about what you do with what you know that matters.

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