A Hadith once said that a Muslim dude needs to learn to fight, grow courage, pick a cause to believe in and die for, then hope that he didn’t offend too many people in achieving martyrdom.
A Muslim girl only needs to please a husband to be nominated for the glories of martyrdom.
Feminists, please restrain from hating. This ruling actually honors a woman’s efforts in keeping a single man happy, whether she does it alone or with sister-wives and/or secret mistresses .
It also says something about how hard it is to stay married to a man and pleasing him on a day-to-day basis. That marriage can be as hard as protecting a whole country from invasion.
That, even if we love the men we’re married to, it’s still a risk on our mental and physical stability. And if a sister can still love her man after years of marriage, in poverty and sickness or football nights, I’d like some of that drug she's using.
For who doesn't want a little bit of heaven on earth while being married?
8 afterthinkers:
How lovely!
The hardest job in the world is to look after a home and a family(kids also!) so if I was to say which is harder I'd say the woman's task is..
Feminists always say women should get out there,work and achieve,but at the end of the day even THEM just want to end up in the arms of their husbands and with their children.
It is just the way we're meant to be,god knows better :)
A woman needs to please her husband on a day-to-day basis naturally, given that the husband creates a favorable and happy situation at home to start with. If that includes the task to maintain the good mood of his wife on a day-to-day basis, you'll also wonder what kind of drug a husband should use >_<
My granddaughter, I hope, has not been born to bear children and be obedient to a man. She has been born, I trust, to be a strong independent woman who wants to dedicate her life to making small contributions to mankind.
If gender equality will not have been established by the time she's 18 I hope she will turn to be a sensible and cool feminist.
Her grandfather hopes she as a bonus will find true love and partnership on her journey through life.
(In my ideal world this would hold for all little girls)
i don't want this kind of heaven, but that's me. Other women might find it heaven to only think of such life.
everyone is happy with their own mind, as we say.
I think that this is more about true love than subservience and obedience. What, if not true love, will make us dedicate our lives to the happiness of another person? Husband-to-wife, and Wife-to-husband.
Whether a woman chooses to stay home or work and achieve, it should be HER CHOICE, not society's, not her husbands, HERS.
And if one loves another truly, then work choices, kids-or-not, that is all irrelevant. Its the person you come to that matters, not what they've been up to during the day.
Peace.
Rain,
Jane Austen called it the ultimate feminine heaven. Some women are designed to be better at keeping homes than anything else. And those who are lucky enough to have a woman of this kind in their homes, should seriously count his feminist blessings, huh?
Aprianti,
^_^ I do wonder about that too. Then again, I always think that the lesser we expect, is the lesser we are disappointed, you know?
How often have I seen a small family with little means and money but shining from within every individual the light of gratefulness and love and warmth. Towards each other. And the grace that's brought them together.
Where's the electrician to that kind of light?
Colson,
You have a granddaughter? Man, you for real? Whoa!
I'm not so worried about her, for having you as her grandfather.
Wafa',
Indeed, your heaven might not be hers, and her heaven might my idea of hell. If only more people realized that, then they might not keep saying "عقبالك" to every unmarried individual at weddings. Sheesh.
Lamya,
Love at work is worship. It's not just mushy feelings, and pretty things. It's not a Hollywood-ending movie. It's not pretty. It can be hateful and boring.
But if love is not service, and loyalty and consistency and companionship, then what is? If marriage is not two people under a holy contract to try and live together for the sake of a greater good, greater than themselves, then what is?
Both men and women, at some point of their marriage will realize that, in order to stay married, they have let go of the "I"s and "You"s...and become that blurred, barely recognizable, "We".
Like all forms of worship, Love is an everyday choice to make.
I think the electricity for that kind of light comes from every blessing that they count, Hning.
You will never see what I see hear what I hear
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