30 Months

Melted red ice bar

Romantic love only lasts 30 months, at best.

“…based on 5,000 interviews across 37 cultures and medical tests on couples, challenge the romantic ideal, suggesting instead that men and women are biologically and mentally predisposed to be "in love" for only 18-30 months. That is just long enough for a couple to meet, mate and produce a child.” [source]

After 2.5 years (24 + 6 months = 2.5 years), love hormones balance itself out. Bills, arguments, boredom, car pools and other issues will snuff out every surviving butterfly and afterglow. After 30 months from the first fall, people will outgrow romantic love.

This is all good news to me, you see? To know that the discomfort and inconvenience and the ups-and-downs of the penis romance are tagged with an expiration date. To see a romantic fool’s head straightened!

One might argue, that some folks love longer than hormones. And I say, YES, while we all agree that it’s not hormonal passionate love!

In fact, the most common justification to why people who do not love each other insist on staying together and endure children and boredom and mortgage is called marriage; a promise kept.


  1. wow thats crazy!
    i could never imagine life without my husband...but my love does go in phases..haha
    sometimes i feel like we are in a routine...then out of no where i feel like i fall in love with him all over again :)

  2. Well maybe we should ask those who've stayed for 30 years or more!

    But then while passionate love (the hormonal kind) really doesn't last that long, another kind of love does. And although I don't know what to name it yet, I know it's what kept my parents together for more than 30 years.

    This is coralbead, using my sister's account for some whimsical reason!

  3. woow, JUST two years, it's a short time. what about those who are not married and still together after 10 or 12 years !!!! . relief info btw.

  4. Relax, ladies, this is the kind of love that makes you want to be naked all the time. If it did last more than 30 months, we'd be so deep in trouble -- running on the wrong medication, don't you think? (◕‿◕)

  5. too many numbers; i'm poor in math. :P

  6. never cut off "the penis". its not cool!

    sorry, bad pun.

    couldn't resist.

    but I think most people are of the agreement here that once that phase of a relationship is over, things move onto less passion, but by no means less love :)

  7. Anon,
    Okay, I agree with you. But smaller numbers, like 28.3 is much harder to read.

    Dude, crossing out the penis was necessary, otherwise this would be a gender insensitive blog, and women would start throwing rocks at me.

    There's the two extremes, between humping-love and indifference. In between, there's the "I can work with you" love, the "stay out of my hair" love, platonic love, big love, poly-love...you get the point.

    Maybe I should link this love with other posts about solitary and unsizeable love.

  8. Hi there. I've been in a relationship for almost a year now, and wondered how long this butterfly feeling would normally last. Google pointed me to your post. Thanks. :-D