…being Saudi means that my social status is either limited to spinsterhood or a legal status correction that includes the change of hands to my guardianship from one Saudi (my father) to another (a foolish husband).
That last trip to the Saudi Embassy confirmed it when the very shocked Saudi Diplomat's eyebrows touched his hairline because I had told him that I'm quite happy living in a non-Saudi country. "But that means that you may never get married! Aren't you worried about THAT?!"
I know a lot of my kin would rather not marry Saudis. And it's kind of expected to want to have a non-Saudi wife when you have had and been raised and fed by a non-Saudi mother. Especially for my chronically Oedipal cousins and brothers.
Whatever in the world gave those law-making Saudis the assumption that ALL Saudis would only want to marry other Saudis? Are our options limited to marrying just our own cousins?
Dude, not even the bedus do that anymore.
Some Saudis do get away with marrying a non-Saudis by having the right wastah to smooth things up for them in the Department of Innards. But for us hybrids - who are practically second generation immigrants by Purebred Saudi Standards - beyond elementary school, our collection of wastah are only powerful enough to book airplane seats on peak seasons. Which means that there's no way that we can puff our ways into the legal Saudi systems.
Much less legalizing an international marriage.
I almost sound like a bitter spinster even though it's very unlikely for me to rant on such issues; for I have never so grateful for my unleashed status, nor have I laughed at the peculiarity of my life as much I have today. This what happens to a girl on PMS and reading too many feminist-Saudi blogs in one day, giving way to that devilish thought to creep up on me: why have I not been dating Saudis if that would have raised my chances of marrying?
Right, because no Saudi boy would want to live in a Javanese farm.
Thank God I still have that.
6 afterthinkers:
Well, don't go back to saudi. stay right where you are untill you get old,lonely and sorry. And before that, have kids and get sick watching them grow to be something that has nothing to do with you at all.
Live right where you are untill you learn the reality of life there and you will when it's too late. Now you see what's on the surface smilles everywhere, at malls, restaurants and your happy and charming friends. But that's not the whole story.
i don't get it. if saudi is so bad then just don't go back to it. and for the love of God, stop whining about it as this whole whining shit is getting old. like it or not, saudi will never ever turn to usa, canada, uk or anything like that. people there in saudi just like everyone else on earth, have the right to have their own culture and way of life and it does not have to mactch the way of life in other countries!! Those who don't like saudi should leave it. no one is forceing you to stay in saudi. so, don't try to force everyone to change to suite your mood. live and die somewhere else then face God if you actually believe in a god , any god or if you actually think about the real long and endless life, the other life not this short one.
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Anon:
Well, don't go back to saudi. stay right where you are untill you get old,lonely and sorry.
[I can't figure for the world why staying out of Saudi would make me age lonely and sorry. Is it the absence of conventional family life and children that would guarantee my loneliness and regret? Does it allow me to assume that you are living a full life, never lonely or sorry for yourself? Does conventional life GUARANTEE agelessness, companionship and self-actualization? Oh, my, are you GOD?]
And before that, have kids and get sick watching them grow to be something that has nothing to do with you at all.
[this is a strange logic that you're following. Seems like you never raised children before. Either that, or you had some bitter parenting experiences. Did your parents not understand you well enough? Or are so bad at parenting that your children rebelling on you already?]
Live right where you are [I plan to, you fool, with all of your powerful and cunning insight, haven't you gotten THAT figured out by now??] until you learn the reality of life there and you will when it's too late.
[What's my deadline? Becoming old and bitter from living right where YOU are? Dude, if that's what my stakes are, it's never too late to remain where I am.]
Now you see what's on the surface smiles everywhere, at malls, restaurants and your happy and charming friends. But that's not the whole story.
[You really do have a blind side to life in general, do you? Otherwise, how could you be smiling all the time? Are you Santa Claus or are you just plain retarded? You've obviously never been to the mall or had a meal with me. You never were my friend. Because my friend's aren't charming at all – They're rugged and down-to-earth, with the kind of bitch-mouth to beat shallow and superficial egos like yours to pulp.]
I don't get it. if Saudi is so bad then just don't go back to it. and for the love of God, stop whining about it as this whole whining shit is getting old. like it or not, saudi will never ever turn to usa, canada, uk or anything like that. people there in saudi just like everyone else on earth, have the right to have their own culture and way of life and it does not have to mactch the way of life in other countries!! Those who don't like saudi should leave it. no one is forceing you to stay in saudi. so, don't try to force everyone to change to suite your mood. live and die somewhere else then face God if you actually believe in a god , any god or if you actually think about the real long and endless life, the other life not this short one.
[A: I'm not forcing anyone to live anywhere they don't like. But my mother's still trying to make me live somewhere I don't like. And I'm still struggling with that. I KNOW YOU CARE ABOUT THAT BECAUSE YOU'RE STILL BULLSHITTING YOUR WAY HERE IN MY BLOG AND I THANK YOU FOR THAT.
B: It'll take a good 25 years until Saudi Arabia resembles anything like the rest of the GCC countries, much less like US or Canada, you fool.
C: Your so-called Saudi culture is retarded because it's forcing the non-Saudis to behave like Saudis. And then still treat the non-Saudis lesser than the Saudis, even after they have behaved completely like fake Saudis.
D:I just realized this: You're a blindsided idiot AND a Kafir. How could you even doubt the presence of God?]
Eman:
Thank you for the tag. I have tears in my eyes; I've never been voluntarily tagged before. I guess I'm starting to make sense, eh? *sniffles*
"Whatever in the world gave those law-making Saudis the assumption that ALL Saudis would only want to marry other Saudis?"
I would LOVE to hear the answer to that question!
I enjoyed this post, you made me laugh. I put the link for it on my blog...
http://taraummomar.blogspot.com/2008/11/no-ease-for-those-who-dare-marry-saudis.html
ha..ha..lucu sekali ceritanya.. salam kenal.. i'm Lisa an Indonesian just moved here to saudi 3 months ago with my husband and my 3 kids.
Halo Lisa,
Selamat datang di lahan kegilaan saya, semoga hari Anda di Saudi tidak segila hari-hari saya di sana (meskipun dengan adanya 3 orang kurcaci, ditambah ayah mereka, saya tidak dapat membayangkannya lagi!)
Ngomong-ngomong, link yang Anda sediakan diatas tidak bisa dibuka. Browser saya yang ngadat apa memang perlu saya google para Hermantos itu?
Salam hangat dari pedalaman Kab. Brebes, Prop. Jateng,
H
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